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tlong
03-26-04, 11:05 AM
I need to express some frustration to my group therapy. After all the effort and money to acquire and upgrade my Corvette, the wife just doesn't get it. This thing gives me chills just to look at much less driving the hell out of it. The heritage! The performance! The styling! Means nothing. Could have bought a dining room suit. My God woman.

I love her. She loves me. I don't give a damn about Pottery Barn. We soldier on...

tlong

bossvette
03-26-04, 11:11 AM
You are not alone, my wife calls my Vette "that blue thing" and is always wanting me to sell it. I tell her to sell her diamonds and that ends that, why is it always the man who has to sell his stuff?

GS Diva
03-26-04, 11:17 AM
Hey, guys...it's a woman thing, at least to the majority!;) You could always be grateful that you are able to have a Corvette...some wives make guys' lives so miserable, they end up getting rid of the Vette:cry On the other hand, there are guys who have wives/girlfriends who not only encourage Corvette activities, but the women also have their own.:_rock Maybe they're the lucky ones??!!

I consider myself lucky that my husband is as much of a Corvette nut as I am...or is it the other way around?;LOL

Elaine

brit_trader2003
03-26-04, 11:28 AM
My Wife likes Classic Cars and has owned several. She particularly likes sporty Jaguars, and the Mark 2. So I encouraged her to get a Jaguar S-Type with a 4 Litre V8, so now she is happy.

Later when I wanted to by a C3 Vette she was happy and enthusiastic. So now I am the proud owner of a 69 Big Block, with Side Pipes. Mind you she has been questioning abit since I have had to have the Starter Motor, Gearbox and Engine out and rebuilt costing lots of money. Still, she is still enthusiastic albeit a little less than before !

She understands the joy of driving a classic Vette, she has lapped up the attention that we get whenever we go out and appreciates the benefits. Whenever she feels that it might have been a mistake I tell her that the beast does not suffer from depreciation and that it is probably worth more now than when I bought it !

Gman
03-26-04, 11:40 AM
My wife loves the 'Vette and we've always been involved with the local Corvette club when we've owned one. Maybe you can get her involved with the local club. Great way to make new friends and get out and do things with the 'Vette. It may take some work to get her involved, but it's better than spending that energy explaining the reasons why no other car will do.

DRTH VTR
03-26-04, 11:46 AM
My girlfriend would prefer a soft riding floatmobile. She cannot relate to the performance aspect of driving. :( :cry :(

GS Diva
03-26-04, 11:47 AM
My wife loves the 'Vette and we've always been involved with the local Corvette club when we've owned one. Maybe you can get her involved with the local club. Great way to make new friends and get out and do things with the 'Vette. It may take some work to get her involved, but it's better than spending that energy explaining the reasons why no other car will do.
So very true!! Check out clubs in your area and lean toward the one(s) that encourage couple events, not just car "things"!

Elaine

Imachad
03-26-04, 11:48 AM
If there is one thing i have learned in life, it is Compromise. You can partake in activities your wife enjoys to make an attempt to compromise the situation at hand. So she likes potterybarn, take an afternoon and go to your nearest Potterybarn and spend the afternoon trying to connect with your wife. It might be hard at first but it will open up the door to her spending time with you and the vette. If all else fails, at least you made an attempt at the situation [or buy her diamonds :) ] . I hope this helps out.

Chad

spyysee
03-26-04, 11:54 AM
When I met my wife back in'76, I had a '62 95% restored black/red corvette rag top.
Really beautiful too! Oh yeah, so was SHE.
SHE would drive occasionally but was put off by the shifting and NO power steering.
SHE knew I wanted a new vette, and I wanted to keep my classic also. This caused
trouble. What to do? (OK, here comes the good part) I went out and bought a new
'78 anniversary, black(of course) w/ red interior, put a BIG RED BOW on it, hid it in the
garage, then took her by the hand into the garage, told her to turn on the light and
yelled HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY!!! How could she refuse!!!
I had my eye on a boat, SHE made sell the '62 if I wanted that boat, because I was
as SHE put it, "Too invested in fiberglass".
Then came the kids, then my '87 then the tuitions...I'm broke

Black Bear
03-26-04, 12:03 PM
Well people, I am very proud to say that I bought my hubby his "black beauty" for his 40th birthday. It was a purchase I will never regret ... he's still smiling.:D ;)

tlong
03-26-04, 12:08 PM
Chad, Elaine, words of great wisdom. Positive action vs hostility is advisable. But going to Pottery Barn? I think I have some Valium left over from the operation. That place gives me the heebie jeebies.

warren s
03-26-04, 12:14 PM
The fastest I ever went in my 95 coupe was 162MPH.

My wife was with me, and didnt scream.

About 25 trips to the Pottery Barn and Linnens & Things made us even.

tlong
03-26-04, 12:19 PM
LMAO now. See, this is free psychotherapy.;worship

Zixxer
03-26-04, 12:21 PM
The wife loves the motorcycle, vette, boating, and most of all football....I'm such a lucky man and the topic never comes up about selling any of them...even when we probably should have. I've done my time at fabric stores, clothes shopping, etc....she draws the line at computer stores, that she doesn't get it and wants to leave before we get there.

PS Only time something every came up about cost, I remember I commented on the price of that little .0001 ounce of makeup costing about $30.00 :-) A truce was called later that evening.

tlong
03-26-04, 12:30 PM
"Warning: Ownership of this vehicle may require acquaintance with your feminine side"

Right below the airbag sticker.

RedRagTop
03-26-04, 01:50 PM
My last squeeze came up to me when I pulled in with the vette shortly after purchase. We chummed and I eventually had a hard time getting her out of it.
I would say from what I've seen that more likey than don't...

rrubel
03-26-04, 06:12 PM
I guess I'm one of the lucky ones. My wife doesn't share the passion QUITE like some other women might, but she enjoys seeing ME having a good time with it. She did the 50th Caravan with me last summer, despite being in a cast with a broken ankle. There's a trooper! And she even found me my Vette... called me at work saying one of her co-workers was selling it.

And we do make compromises a bit; sometimes it's as simple as driving the Vette to go see a "chick flick."
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dremn2
03-28-04, 10:57 PM
My wife bought me my 85 for my 50th birthday. She never thought much about it but always said I spent too much time in the garage talking to it.... Anyway, recently we moved to a coastal town about 80 miles away. I drove my pickup (she said she couldn't see out the back and didnt want to drive it) and she drove the Vette. Half way to the new house she called me on my cell phone and said she and the Vette had "bonded" lol. Anyway, she now loves the car as much as I do. When it needs fixing she doesn't give me any problems. She even suggested that maybe we need "his and hers" Vettes :)
Guess Ill keep them both around!

Ken
03-28-04, 11:22 PM
Hey, it's not just women who sometimes just don't get it; some guys just don't care about cars, much less the sex symbol such as the red Corvette defines. :v

I'll never understand a male not caring for machinery. :eyerole

Imachad
03-28-04, 11:26 PM
I'll never understand a male not caring for machinery. :eyerole

That would be my brother in law. When my sister and he come to visit, its always my sister who wants to take the vette out for a spin. He has told me he is content driving his Saturn... I just don't get it! :(

vee93
03-30-04, 04:21 AM
Baby! Take your wife out on some backroad-preferably with curves and a few long straight aways and LET HER DRIVE IT!!!!!!
I'm a woman, okay. I made the decision to move back home with my mom. A leadfoot in her day, she's now looking at 72. She made a plethora of comments on my '93 taking up space in the garage. (Personally, I think she was just ticked it showed up her Monte Carlo!)

Then, during one of those "take me for a ride" days out in the country, some guys in a blown Crown Vic started hanging out on my left wheel well. My then 71 year old mother said, "don't let them pass." Catching myself before I fainted at the wheel, I floored it. They did not pass. As a matter of fact, we never saw them again. After I let off the gas a few minutes later, and upon inspection I discover she looked like a dog who'd had it's head hanging out the space shuttle window during reorbit, even Mom "GETS IT" now!!!!!! :Steer

JonM
03-30-04, 04:53 AM
Wife???..oooh yea...I remember having one of those...I wonder where I misplaced her? :D

Guy
03-30-04, 06:55 AM
I need to express some frustration to my group therapy. After all the effort and money to acquire and upgrade my Corvette, the wife just doesn't get it. This thing gives me chills just to look at much less driving the hell out of it. The heritage! The performance! The styling! Means nothing. Could have bought a dining room suit. My God woman.

I love her. She loves me. I don't give a damn about Pottery Barn. We soldier on...

tlongYou married my wife's sister ;LOL. And even thinking about "getting her involved" or "letter her drive it" is like backing a dangerous animal into a corner. I'm happy she will ride in a Vette once in a while. So as you say, "We soldier on.."

:w
Guy

tlong
03-30-04, 10:49 AM
Latest installment: I was flirting with buying a skunk. Yes the awesome GS. The trade was financially feasible. The drooling stopped long enough to discuss the idea. "I don't like the color. Why does it have a stripe? That looks bad."

I am now totally convinced that she will NEVER get it. Just not a car person I guess. Born, not made.

Idaho Slim
03-30-04, 11:16 AM
well, maybe you dont get it ;) :upthumbs , do what I did, I bought HER a 96 Corvette for Christmas, oh, and Boy oh Boy, she Gets it now!! Everyday she comes home from work she has a HUGE smile on her face. And when she "lets" me drive it, its too fun!, like last night, i blipped it up to 142, she just had this deer in the headlight look on her face since she doesnt drive it that fast. Yes, I is a happy man . :beer :w :w

01TriBlack
03-30-04, 12:27 PM
My husband couldn't care less about the 'vette and thinks I should get my head examined because of my love affair with 'vettes. Sheesh....I even have to sneak around to have mods (minor) performed - he hasn't noticed yet it's been lowered, or that I changed out the tires (soon to change out the rears AGAIN), or that I upgraded the stereo system that was only 2 weeks old, or that I just had a Blackwing installed. He did notice the new rims, though. ;-)

bossvette
03-30-04, 12:47 PM
Great license plate 01triblack :cool

01TriBlack
03-30-04, 01:03 PM
Great license plate 01triblack :cool
Thank you, Bossvette! :D Too bad B"C"NU was taken. :w

Mary

Moonunit 451
03-30-04, 01:27 PM
My vette is my wife, and she's veryexpensive, but she don't talk back, never requires more attention than I am willingto give, and when she leaves I won't be missing half my worth, again ;)

RedRagTop
03-30-04, 01:30 PM
My vette is my wife, and she's veryexpensive, but she don't talk back, never requires more attention than I am willingto give, and when she leaves I won't be missing half my worth, again ;)

I hear ya!

GS Diva
03-30-04, 05:13 PM
Latest installment: I was flirting with buying a skunk. Yes the awesome GS. The trade was financially feasible. The drooling stopped long enough to discuss the idea. "I don't like the color. Why does it have a stripe? That looks bad."

I am now totally convinced that she will NEVER get it. Just not a car person I guess. Born, not made.
Re-think your purchase of a Grand Sport!!! If you get the "I don't like the color" comments, tell her the GS is one of the few C4's that will hold its value long after the others fade away!! Maybe $$ will work??!

But, then again, maybe I'm just a little biased!:)

Elaine

01TriBlack
03-30-04, 08:11 PM
Re-think your purchase of a Grand Sport!!! If you get the "I don't like the color" comments, tell her the GS is one of the few C4's that will hold its value long after the others fade away!! Maybe $$ will work??!

But, then again, maybe I'm just a little biased!:)

Elaine
I love the GS, Elaine. In fact, I was considering one instead of the '01. I met with the same resistance (and ignorance) from my husband: He thought it was gawdy as heck - not appreciating what exactly it is. Great, great 'vette - it's got my vote. I envy that you've got one.

:w
Mary

94C4
03-31-04, 12:29 PM
Most people just don't get it when it comes to Vettes. The best one I have heard was at the car show. My son and I were looking at a beautiful 50th anniversary C5 convertible, when someone who had just sat in the car made the comment "This thing is so impractical. If I had it, I would sell it and buy a Subaru". :( I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder but a Subaru. Pleeeease. ;LOL

JJS
03-31-04, 01:01 PM
I guess I'm on the lucky side myself. I've wanted a vette since I was a kid, and my wife actually pushed me to buy my '17 LT1. She told me that if anything ever happened to me and I never got my vette, that would always be on her conscience.
Now she goes around talking to people as if it were hers. When someone mentions they have a vette, she ask them what they have, and then tell them the WE have a 1971 LT1, as if she's bragging about it. She doesn't drive a standard, but she loves to ride with me in the LT1!

tlong
03-31-04, 02:09 PM
My honey doesn't get the '96 as stated earlier. However after the discussion regarding a possible swap for the mighty Grand Sport she was kind enough to capitulate on a 2006 convertible. Actually e-mailed a picture taken at the Geneva Car Show.

"I wouldn't mind one of these if you want a Corvette." I can't decide if this is progress or not. I really need to just forget it and go run the hell out of my princess for moral support.

Skant
03-31-04, 03:44 PM
If you just can't get her to appreciate the vette thing, then maybe the vette should just be entirely your thing, and don't include her in it. Personally, I'd go for the skunk.

The way I figure it... she's got her pottery barn, and you've got your vette. Either you're both fine to let the other have their own vices and leave it at that. Or you try to engage in eachother's interests and mix it up.

If you think about it... right now, you're not willing to entertain the things that she really likes but maybe you don't. But you're expecting her to entertain the thing you like when she has no interest.

Or maybe all you want is for her to leave it alone. }:> In which case, you might point out that you don't decide what she gets at the pottery barn...

I think you're better off getting what you want, and just getting her to deal with it... rather than carrying a resentment over 'the car you could have had'... you've gotta both allow eachother to live, ya know?

PS: Myself... I can't understand people who view a car as nothing more than 'Point A to Point B'. The people that can't understand how it would ever be more than that. For them, it will always be the cheapest suckiest car that will make the most sense and be 'practical'. For these people, there is Honda (or Subaru, in the case above).

- Skant

rrubel
03-31-04, 08:02 PM
HEY!!! Watch your tone, young man! I've got TWO Subarus, and had to sell a third when I got the Vette. And the right one (Forester XT or '05 Legacy GT) is both practical AND a match for most C4's...
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Ken
03-31-04, 08:12 PM
Fellow Southwest Corvette club member Carmine Pilichi, has a '54 Vette, but it's still in pieces. I have never seen him in anything but a Subaru. :L

http://corvetteobsession.homestead.com/files/SouthwestCorvettes/Harbor_080903/25_Pilichi.JPG

94C4
04-01-04, 11:57 AM
OK Subaru owners, I apologize. Subarus are practical cars. I would still rather drive my C4 than a Forester though. :_rock

RedRagTop
04-01-04, 12:56 PM
A match for most C4's?

Fishman
04-01-04, 01:55 PM
I am now totally convinced that she will NEVER get it.
There are two theories to arguing with women. Neither one works.

rrubel
04-01-04, 05:25 PM
Stock Forester XT, owned by an acquaintance of mine, did consistent mid-13's at a midwestern dragstrip... That's enough to beat any stock L98 and most stock LT1's, I think...

Next year's Legacy GT should be even faster, and a couple of the not-for-US models will embarrass a C5 (low 4's 0-60, for example). Less power, but less weight and awesome hookup.

I too would rather drive my early C4, but if there's rain, snow, or more than two people to haul you're kinda in a bind.

Oh, there WAS supposed to be a smiley on my last post; for some reason it didn't show.
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Skant
04-01-04, 07:55 PM
HEY!!! Watch your tone, young man! I've got TWO Subarus, and had to sell a third when I got the Vette. And the right one (Forester XT or '05 Legacy GT) is both practical AND a match for most C4's...
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Ouch. My nose.

I disagree, but I won't flame you back. Think what you like.

Peace.

PS: Btw, I said that 'Point A to Point B' people are drawn to Subarus. I didn't say all Subarus are for 'Point A to Point B' people. There's a difference.

- Skant

compyelc4
04-02-04, 12:30 AM
My sweet wife. Know what she said just this evening?...........


"Hey, think its about time to get the vette out for the summer?" Gawd, she HATES motorcycles though, and I drool at their sight. Who said it's a "give-and-take thing"? Right you are.

Bonnell
04-02-04, 08:49 AM
My wife understands how I feel about my vette. She does not complain or ask me to sell it but she does not like riding low (and she REALLY does not like cornering like I do) so she does not ride with me often.

I ride alone - oh well, it's just that much faster that way.:D

vettepilot
04-02-04, 09:01 AM
Just thinking about that Potterybarn line... Do this, drive the Vette to the Potterybarn, now you're in the Vette your happy, she's getting to go to the Potterybarn, she's happy, and due to the limited space in the Vette v.s. say a pickup or van, the total purchase volumn will have to be less.

Now the only thing you have to listen to is how she couldn't buy that huge piece of ugly pottery (that you didn't like anyway) because it wouldn't fit in the Vette. :L ;)

vettepilot

rrubel
04-02-04, 05:45 PM
PS: Btw, I said that 'Point A to Point B' people are drawn to Subarus. I didn't say all Subarus are for 'Point A to Point B' people. There's a difference.


I don't even agree with THAT statement... "Point A to Point B" people buy Escorts and Taurii and Camrys and Accords and Exploders. Cars without souls. Perhaps you misunderstand the Subaru mystique! :) Remember, Subarus are quirky by nature because of their AWD and flat engine layout - not something a "normal" person cares about. A different analogy - Subaru people are Macintosh people, A-B people are PC people. And I'm opening a HUGE can of worms with that statement, I know...
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Imachad
04-02-04, 05:47 PM
I'm a Democrat, and I own a Macintosh...Let the flames begin :D

vettepilot
04-02-04, 07:02 PM
I'm a Democrat, and I own a Macintosh...Let the flames begin :D
:L :L OK.... So with the Mac you probably have to have programs that emulate MS Windows or something to that effect so those PC programs will run right?

;LOL And as a proclaimed Democrat don't you have to have programs that emulate socialism programs so those PC correct programs will work?

Just a light hearted thought instead of serious flameing... it all fell together so well ;) :L

vettepilot

grapeknutz
04-02-04, 09:37 PM
I guess I more luckier than most, my wife is just as stoked as I am about the vette, I love her!!:cu

rrubel
04-02-04, 09:50 PM
Ok... THAT was funny!

I would expect a majority of Vette owners to be Mac (or Linux) users - the idea being that a tool can be more than a tool. It's a mindset. FWIW, the vast majority of Subaru owners I know are Mac and Linux users (and no, they're NOT tree huggers).

Also FWIW, I've owned PC emulator programs since I got my first Mac in 1990; however, I've stopped using them because 99% of what I need now is native, and the other 1% are games that are too intensive for the emulator (I do have a PC on my desk as well, but it's pretty much strictly for the few games that I play that aren't Mac-native).

And I think we've (ok, I'VE) effectively hijacked this thread... On a more related note, I was explaining to my (understanding, does get it) wife tonight that my new short block has been built and shipped, and her only concerns were not about the cost or time I've spent on the car, but whether I'd made a good choice going with someone from off the 'net, and how long until the car would be back on the road...

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