The Spoon Theory...

[XLR8]

or... But you don't look sick!

I came across this one day while researching Lupus on the web. I don't know anything about the website butyoudon'tlooksick.com so my mention of it here should not be taken as an endorsement.

I was moved by the writer's story and thought I'd share it here for any members that have been touched by a debilitating illness, either themselves or a loved one.

The Spoon Theory

My best friend and I were in the diner, talking. As usual, it was very late and we were eating French fries with gravy. Like normal girls our age, we spent a lot of time in the diner while in college, and most of the time we spent talking about boys, music or trivial things, that seemed very important at the time. We never got serious about anything in particular and spent most of our time laughing.


As I went to take some of my medicine with a snack as I usually did, she watched me with an awkward kind of stare, instead of continuing the conversation. She then asked me out of the blue what it felt like to have Lupus and be sick. I was shocked not only because she asked the random question, but also because I assumed she knew all there was to know about Lupus. She came to doctors with me, she saw me walk with a cane, and throw up in the bathroom. She had seen me cry in pain, what else was there to know?

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The entire story can be found here: Click me

© 2003 by Christine Miserandino Butyoudontlooksick.com


Jane Ann

[VetteLuv]

Thank you ever so much for bringing this story to my (our) attention. Like most everyone these days, I have known several people who have had a debilitating illness, including Lupis, and this "Spoon" analogy is the best that I have ever heard to describe what it like to live with such a problem. Now to try to remember it and pass it on when usefull.....
Thanks again,
Bruce

[Mac]

Thanks, Jane Ann. That's a good one!

-Mac

[SPANISHVETTS]

She came to doctors with me, she saw me walk with a cane, and throw up in the bathroom. She had seen me cry in pain, what else was there to know?

What can you say at a time like this?
Anything but that!

[bill81vette]

that really puts things into perspective!!

[chockey]

I guess that we never realize how much we take things for granted, thank you for posting this.

Chuck

ADD ON:

I shared this with a friend whose wife has Lupus ( found out about it in January ), every word and every thought really hit it on the head. After listening to him I realized just how unaware I was to Lupus or the effects of dealing with it on a daily basis. He said that Wheat based foods make the condition worse and her's is somewhat while being controlled by diet.

My ears listen better now.